Sure, it would be niceeeeeee if we were all millionaires. But, where would that leave us without struggle, tesitimony, true heart felt humility, and the need to just be to grateful. I think once we began to realize that we already have MORE than enough even in the midst of our seemingly horrific struggles. This is when we can finally began to accept that we are already rich!

Thankfully, this is a truth that I've grown to know all too well. Not to long ago, I was having a conversation with my mother about the frustrations of always feelings like every time I come into a surplus of money, or my savings is finally looking attractive;  a need emerges to use it. It seems as if almost every time I’ve gotten just a little bit of extra cash, I’ve needed to spend it, which has painted a picture that I can never really get “ahead.”

As im sure we all do... at different times I can react totally differently to the various situations in life that rise.... Well, I'm so sane and awesome that I've taken the liberty in naming all of these mindsets and I discipline them accordingly. Lol Narsheba is the scholar and business guru. Nothing seems to be more important to her than her buisness ventures and securing her future.  Sheba is the live wire & also the girl Linda-Gail (my mother) raised. She has the take charge, zero tolerance, stand my ground, no matter what, and  im not going to tell you more than one time attitude that usually yeilds results nonetheless. Moose... well thats Alfonza's doing. Thats the spoiled one. She wants everything done her way, when she wants it done, how she wants it done,  and probably with Tiffany blue bows on it. But Bella... That Bella! Thats who I admire most.  Bella is the most grounded. She's the woman that I have grown to become. She stands against adveristy. She thinks will her mind, heart, and spirit. Bella gets out of the box, finds a can of spray paint, and grafitti's positivity all over that very box. Bella is the true queen.. The one who knows, realizes, and appreciates, just how much she has. Just how RICH she is.

So when I started feeling like I can just  never seem to get ahead.. thats when I began to tell myself... Bella, dont you ever invite, accept, or welcome that mindset! After taking a closer look at my frustrations, I realized that I had been seeing things alllllllllllllll wrong. No, I am NOT unlucky for always having to spend what I have. In fact, I am beyond blessed for being FORTUNATE enough to have it to always spend on my unxpected neccesities!

I guess I’ve always felt safe in knowing I have a solid savings and would get a bit discouraged when it would dwindle. The joy comes in knowing I’m rebuilding it slowly—but the reality is... I am secure right now, today, at this very moment. We may not always feel like we’re getting ahead, but just maybe there’s NOWHERE to get to.  We should be grateful first, for where we are. Maybe all we need to do is be thankful for our overall comfort.

There are really some people who don’t have enough—and for each of us,
there will be times when we’re struggling more than usual. But use the now as an example. What do You have to be grateful for? For example: How are you reading this post? How are you accessing the internet? Do you have a snazzy cell phone? Fancy! Are you on your lavish customized laptop? Or even if you're at the public library... How did you get there? Do you have a car? Did you ride the train? So, you had money for the train, right? There are thousands standing outside right now, at this very moment, without money for food, let alone a train ride.. And believe it or not... some of them are more grateful than we are. Grateful to be in such harsh conditions and still be alive. Its the little things that we deem as nothings that we should cherish!

That’s why we owe it to ourselves to stop and recognize what we have, when we have it.  No matter what that is. Yes,  we could always have more. But we will never be rich at heart until we stop to celebrate that in which we do have!

Tell me... right now... Can you name just 1 thing that you have to be grateful for... Share it. Share your wealth! Or, are you one of those pessimist who have nothing at all to be grateful for!?

>>>>> TODAY,... I am grateful for life, discernment, health, my living relatives, booksssssss, true friendships, income, my home, comfortabilty, education, transportation,my career, creativity, passion in everything I touch, Mike Tyson, an abundance of love, the wisdom to realize a need for several changes within myself, and last but not least... I am grateful for all of you! My site is flourishing bc YOU care about what it is that I have to say. MWAHHH!

Amore,

El Espiritu De Bella

*Sighs…. Oh my! The weight the mere WORD loyalty holds is just impeccable! What is loyalty to you?  What does it mean to you? Do you give it whether or whether not you receive it? If so, for how long after the union fades? Does it have an expiration date?  When do you stop? What prompts you to stop? What makes you keep going? What motivates you to give it, even when you don’t receive it? How important is that unwavering faithfulness in spirit and body to you?

Where it pertains to me, my expectations regarding loyalty are quite simple. I truly feel like I am entitled to demand that you respect me enough to at least  be honest with me about whom you are and who you plan to be so that I can temper my expectations accordingly! Yes, I realistically expect that you deter from treating me the way that you have treated  anyone else in your life! I want you to relate to me in the context of the authentic connection that only you and I share. That’s it. I don’t want what you and your last girlfriend had, nor what  you and your old best friend shared. No replica will ever be worth more than the original. So, I don’t want to mimic anything or anyone from your past. I ultimately want what you and Sheba will have. Let’s manifest our connection to grow into OUR OWN something beautiful! 
 
For me, loyalty is earned & should be a two-way street. However, that’s not always the case. So what do you do? Be loyal to you is what you do! Meaning, just be however loyal YOU are naturally accustomed to being..  React how your heart and conscience would normally have you to. Based on our choices with how we chose to handle our loyalties, our relationships will either grow or atrophy. However, we must be honest in admitting that most of us have many loyalties, including a loyalty to one’s self.

So what’s the one word that comes to mind when you think loyalty? For me, it’s priority! Being loyal requires giving our  ‘ships a priority. Simply put—if you truly care about that someone be loyal. Be true to them. Continue to do what’s in their best interests. Teach them through example.  Maybe they’ve never experienced loyalty on the selfless
level you can take them too. All in all, we teach people how to treat us and we learn from the interactions that we have previously been subjected to.
 
My loyalties yield many priorities.  So expectantly, our loyalties can sometimes conflict with each other! That’s when it’s tested. For instance, proving loyalty to a friend may even conflict with a simple personal principle! It may be hard to choose one over the other. But, it’s necessary that you are clear as to where your priorities rank. What facilitates rank though? Is it time? Does time play a part in your loyalty? Well, TIME MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO ME! Circumstances change, relationships change, and people change. Now, what your actions suggest “during that time” may make all the difference to me? Crazy theory? Well answer this- Should you be more loyal to the person who shows less but has been around longer?  Absolutely not! Never ever get caught up in the longevity and excitement of things that you let empty capsuls of time replace true substance! Longevity & Loyalty are not one in the same. Never confuse who's really there, with the ppl who are just always around! Think! Weed! & Discern your wisdom as needed. Knowledge is knowing a tomato is a fruit. But, wisdom is knowing not to put it in a fruit salad!

I have learned from experience, that once I create a realm of loyalty to you, it’s there to stay. It will never expire and it will always exist. However, the decline of connection may very well shift seniority behind those who pay a loyalty forward to me. So it’s simple. If you want loyalty, be loyal. Loyalty is rare.  If you find it, keep it. Unfortunately, it’s not just a characteristic that you get to put on and take off as you see fit.  No, it’s a lifestyle.  A lifelong armor of  dedication and devotion!  It doesn’t change or waiver depending on the situation. So, if your loyalty does in fact fickle, just be mindful of your receiving expectations. It’s a cold, cold world out here. Better know what you’re fighting for!
 
Amore,
El Espiritu' De Bella

 Our words are powerful!!! So, we must begin to be more conscious of how we speak about our finances, our jobs, our future,  our spirituality, and out ‘ships. Whether, that be our relationships,kinships, or friendships. The truth is, people don’t like to see you doing good OR better for that matter. A lot of our circle sitters are sitting back at this very moment waiting on the old us to emerge. Our own are waiting on us to fail. But know this; Once you truly start to speak and believe that you are too good and too beautiful for the bull. It’ll leave you alone. Watch! We
have the power to either build up or we can tear down with our
words.

For instance, tell me this. If you plant apple seeds, what are YOU expecting to come from it? ??..... Let me guess,....  apples? Thats where we fail and expect and speak minimal blessings. Plant your seeds expecting and wanting not just apples. But manifest your seeds into apple Trees! The easiest way to change a destructive way of thinking and speaking is through the repetitive speaking into being that which you long for. This not only changes our future, it actually changes the way we speak and feel about our situation. Key word… Repetitive! We have to make this a part of our routine. Speak these as though it were in the NOW, not in some distant hazy  future. Dont speak “Someday I will be wealthy.”  Claim your dreams now. You already own it. Now, just work and watch it happen.

For example… These are a few of my daily affirmations. And, because I know the weight of my words, they are not just designated for prayer, or even a set time.  I speak them to myself and aloud when I think them:


·  I  am right where I am supposed to be.

·  Everything I touch is blessed because I speak and believe this to be true. 

·  I have more money than month.

·  I attract peace.

·  Myself, my family, and my friends are all healthy. Sickness is rebuked. 

·  My nonprofit is successful, supported, prosperous, and respected bc  I am the founder.

·   I am debt free.

·   I have the energy, but more importantly,  the passion to make my thoughts reality. 

·  Today, I chase true serenity. I will take deeper, longer, and more relaxed breaths. 

·  I gratefully accept all the health, wealth, happiness, and wisdom that is poured into my soul daily!

· I speak  and claim new streams of income.

·  My site is flourishing! It.s my seed, my baby & I have every right to be proud. Proud bc it wreaks positivity, wisdom, & testimony.

·  My children’s children will be blessed.

·  My possibilities are endless.

·  I will use my gift of gravity to promote positivity.

·  I am a money magnet. 

·  I am already healed, happy, loving, wealthy, successful, confident, physically and emotionally well.

 ·  I will make effective use of my time today.

 ·  I choose love Over fear. Over hate. Over Negativity. Over evil.

 ·  All the changes in my relationships and life are positive. I am safe., I am covered.  & I am loved.

·  I am freely,  and openly accepting abundance with GOOD intentions.

 · I CAN do ALL this… through Him.. because He strengthens me.



Yet, even after ALL of this. You have to play your role in bringing it into  existence. Dont expect a twenty dollar answer to a ten cent prayer. If you notice, a lot of my posts revert back to faith in works. So, with that being said, “After you’ve claimed it,… what are you doing to support your dreams?”  If you want to be an artist, are you going to museums and galleries looking at works of art? Are you buying paints, taking classes, or are you talking about how you will never get recognition because you did not go to a prestigious art school???  So what is it that you are speaking because our thoughts, mind, and tongue heavily impact our reality!

Proverbs 18:21 - "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof."

*Deep Sighs… I’m guessing I really dug deep and reached a plateau today. This was the first post.. to make me cry. #Breakthrough 

 
Amore, 

El Espiritu De Bella

Do soulmates really exist??? Do people have more than one? Is it inevitable that we will all find ours? Did you find yours, then somehow lost it? Is it possible to get it back?  How do you know if someone is your soulmate? These might be relevant questions to ask when discussing love, romance, and relationships. But, they certainly are not easy ones to answer… and often controversial. In fact, I think that our personal beliefs and thinking ultimately dictate the way we feel about this.

I'm convinced that as we move through life, we come across certain qualities in people that we are naturally attracted to because there is a likeness. It could be something surface that has something to do with how they look and carry themselves, perhaps it may be merely their sense of humor or intelligence, or it could run much deeper to a spiritual realm full of vibrations!!! It could also just be because of how caring and understanding they are when it relates to us. The desirable and undesirable qualities we observe around us cause us to seek people who match the qualities we adore, and move away from people whose qualities we do not appreciate. Perhaps, it is your alignment within yourself that will ultimately attract the right person.  

Call me old fashion. But, I deeply believe in the term equally yoked! How often will you see Dr. A madly and happy in love with Miss Welfare B? Here me out though, geeshhhh. Lol For me, my theory his has nothing to do with income or social class! But instead, it has everything to do with the need for growth and inspiration on BOTH ends! Who wants to spend their life with someone that doesn’t motivate them just as much as they motivate. A two way street is always more favorable in a relationship vs a potential recipe! Label me biased… but potential is just another nice word for ““Aint did shit yet””… without works that is. You can have all the potential in the world. Yet, if you’re not even putting an ounce of work in your faith. It’s obsolete. 

Thus, before you find a partner that is ideal for soulmate potential… you need to be a vibrational magnet for the experience you are seeking with your partner. This means you need to be clear about what you want AND need from a relationship, and be certain that you, too, offer it. You want loyalty, be loyal. You want to trust, be trustworthy. You want to be spoiled, be selfless. You want happiness, think positive! For instance… my positive thinking usually is a derivative of this: Whenever I encounter couples that I like & how they interact, I sincerely adore and appreciate them and the way they take care of each other. I often will catch myself smiling when I see older couples. But, by appreciating something and being sincerely genuine from the heart, you are saying to the universe “More of this in my life, please!”

So, the past few days I’ve turned to friends in long term relationships and married family members for their take. I asked if they had actually found their soul mates, and if so, how did they know “he/she” was “the one”? The unanimous answer “from the one’s whom are happy, lol” attest that soulmates are indeed a reality. The word “effortless, natural, and spiritual” popped up a few times to describe it. And, according to my ethnic connections…lol… it should be comfortable, like chillin’ with a BFF. LOL So, an aunt of mine who has been married for 7 years also went on to say… “Soulmates, without question do exist. It’s that one person who loves you when you’re at your best, and still loves you just as much when you’re at your worst. Hmmmmmm….

Let’s just say there isn’t a such thing as soulmates for conversation sake. What would this mean? Should a Queen not be looking for the ying to her souls yang? Is it self-sabotaging to want someone who is a perfect match? Is it too much to ask to meet someone you’re actually excited about a future with, as opposed to just someone who’s just tolerable? What about when you think you've found this person. It doesn's work out and you move on.  Time passess, and you end up in a new relationship. Yet, cant shake that the alleged soulmate. Now What??? Do you continue in the current relationship? Back track? Sacrifice? Work with what you have?  Be grateful for the present? Or Risk if all for the sake of loves true love??

 Some people say we have just one twin-soul we reconnect with every lifetime, while others say we have many. Whatever we think, most of us love the idea of soulmates, and around this time of the year, as Valentines Day draws near. We are allowed to be as romantic as we like. But where it applies to me and my personal logic i think its always important to remember, We Create Our Own Reality by our way of thinking!

Amore,
El Espíritu de Bella

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Amore,
El Espiritu' De Bella